Cheating

Dear Honey Bii, 


Hi I'm 23 year old lesbian of course. I need some advice I been dating my girlfriend who is 27 and has a son for a year. This has been a long distance relationship. We never met but always talk on the phone 24/7 everyday. We talk about seeing each other but thing is we broke up about 3 months ago and after being away from each other for awhile we decide to be friends again but thing my girl moved on and started dating a man. Now at first it was cool, but as we started to talk again we started to bring back old feelings and one day I just told herI was so in love with her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her she told me she was in love with me to and never stop loving me and wanted to be with me, However,  she is still with her man. He lives with her and he treats her bad. That's what she tells me but she keeps him around cause he gives her money and takes care of her son which he isn't the father of but still i stayed by her side. I feel like am her secret or something. She used to call me baby or boo but now she was callis me by my name. I told her I love you but she wasn't saying it back.  Please help me tell me what to do cause I don't know and thank you in advance.


This is really simple. I cannot sugar coat this one. She does not want to be with you. It does not take over a year to meet someone in person. I understand financial stress, but where there is a will there is a way. I truly believe that you are being made a fool out of. However, it is hard to be empathetic to your situation because she has told you that she is a relationship and you have chose to be the other woman. Regardless of how she tells you how he treats her she is staying for whatever reason.  You need to stop calling her your girlfriend, because she is his girlfriend who is entertaining you. My thing is, "What makes you an exception to the rule?" Absolutely nothing. If she will cheat on him to be with you, then karma will come around. It seems that she is having her cake and eating it too. Everyone deserves someone that puts forth the same amount of effort in the relationship as they do. Stop being a secret. 


XOXO Honey Bii