Monday, December 31, 2012


Honey Bii,

I'm a 21 year old lesbian that has a problem approaching females. I can easily let a girl know that i think she's attractive but after that i draw a blank. It seems like the older i get, the more shy i become. I dont have many lesbian friends and i really want that to change. I have not seriously dated anyone in a long time and i believe i am ready to start dating again. I'm in the military and i have some training to do so i will be leaving DC (home) in June and will be gone for at least 6 months, but i still want to meet and get to know some new women before I leave. I want to be able to go out to places, whether its a club, restaurant or whatever, see a pretty girl and approach her and potentially ask for her number, but i don't know how. I'm not sure if I'm really shy or if its an issue with confidence. How do you think I should go about addressing the issues that i am having with approaching women? 



Hello there, 

I hope that all is well. Thank you so much for taking the time to write. 

It does seem to me that you have a case of the gitters. It sounds like you are letting your nerves get the best of you. It is really simple, if you like someone then talk to them. I think that a lot of people misunderstand relationships. You don't always have to have sexual relationships with others in order to be close with them. Friends make the best company. Some of the friends that I have, I couldn't imagine them not being a part of my life. 

The best way to approach someone is to be in the same settings that you like to be in. For example, go to places that interest you. That way you will have a common interest. Then just simply begin conversation. There are social networking sites like and that have interest groups that meet up for people interested in the same things. 

I hope that this helps. 
XOXO Honey Bii

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