Happy New Year 2012

Let's make 2012 even better!

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Happy Happy Joy Joy

Whatever you celebrate/believe in.... I hope that it is AMAZING! 

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I Am Cheating With A Woman

Hello.  Just would like to say that I really enjoy reading your blogs.  There was one that caught my eye which was 'I'm married but in love with a woman'...or something to that affect.  It caught my eye because I'm in a similar situation. Sort of. I'm a 36 year old black woman who has been married to a man. We've been together for almost 20yrs . We have kids together. I never imagined being with a woman. Never even thought about it. Until I saw her. She was at a party of a mutual friend and we sorta just clicked. No numbers was exchanged, only friend request through FB...anyway, we got to know one another. We talked and talked. She's what I would call an aggressive femme. To make a long story short, I've been seeing her for almost a year. She knows I'm married and she's single. She never asked me to leave my husband. She said that's something she would never do. I know that I love her. And it's a different type of love of what I have for my husband. Very different. I know what I'm doing is sooo wrong on so many levels but I don't want her out of my life and she feels the same about me. I don't know if I'm telling you my story for advice purposes or just to vent. I just like your blogs. Have a good one. 

XOXO Honey Bii 

Happy

Today is going to be a great day. CLAIM IT!

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Out Magazine

Why does my Out Magazine have to come in a plastic cover????







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Bisexual

Dear Honey Bii,

I am a woman that is attracted to women, but I don't know how to meet them.   I identify as bi-sexual because I still do find men attractive. I've tried being on downelink but because I identify as bi-sexual the lesbian community seems to look down on that.  I am the type person that only dates one person at a time regardless.  (I've never actually been with a woman intimately).  Not only that, I don't sleep around period.  It has been almost a year since I've been intimate and that is because I'm not in a relationship nor have I gotten close enough with anyone that I would consider it serious enough to sleep with.  Why does the lesbian community think that a bisexual woman can't be faithful?  How do I go about meeting a woman without hitting the club scene?  Should I just say that I am a lesbian to avoid the drama?  Please help...Thanks

XOXO Honey Bii 

Building Confidence

:)



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My Quote On OWN

"My favorite line from this season is, "No is a complete sentence". It applies to all aspects of my life.

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Kids Need A Voice

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Smile

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Spirit Day 2011

Join @FindingNaj and I tonight @9pm EST for our 1st live broadcast. http://www.ustream.tv/user/GayLifeDecoded

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Everyone Is Vulnerable

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It's Complicat ed

Hello to you & this in advance for hearing me out in regards to this situation.

I started dating a woman 2 years ago and we got along very well. Soon she started to withdraw from me in different aspects of my life. I didn't know why until I asked her out of pure anger. She informed me that she couldn't be with me b/c I had no job (i.e i was fresh out of college) and that I couldn't provide for her like her previous gf. Her friends would tell her that I am not good b/c I am not the typical stud that pretend to be a male figure in the relationship. But as soon as she informed me of her not being happy of not having a job, I got one and started the process of getting my life together. So after that we can go our separate ways as far as relationship but can still have the friendship. I am very mellow person and I tried to be her friend, but every time we would interact with one another it would lead to something sexual or us fighting. So then I decided to cut it off completely and just handle my business and become a better me. However, we run in a similar circle. I do speak to her, but whenever shes in a drunken state she always seems to want to talk or wanna kiss me. I recently, found out that her and ex gf from before are an item. This ex gf left her in pieces and got married to another girl for a year. I want to know what is logic behind her actions??

Situation number 2 ties into the the first part. So I am gay social networking site and this lady introduces herself to me and we get to talking. Something in the back of mind tells me, "Why does the woman wanna talk to me out of the blue without me putting forth the effort". I gave her the benefit of the doubt and we started talkin and we do have great deal in common and she makes me laugh a lot. The only catch is that she is the woman that was married to my ex girlfriend exs wife. Do you think she knew that I was in a relationship with her ex wife's current gf? Do you think I should continue to commuicate with this woman??

Signed, Complicated.

Thank you so much for reaching out. 

I don't think that this needs a long letter. DON'T DO IT. It seems to me that you are a reasonable/sound person. I do not understand how under any circumstance that you would think this is ok. Of course this new woman knows exactly who you are. It sounds like both of you are hurt and looking to each other for support. Please do better. There are a million people on this earth for a reason. So that we do not have to recycle each other. 

P.S. Don't worry about why your ex girl friend has decided to go back to her ex. You need to move on. Let them be together in whatever capacity that they choose and better yourself. 

XOXO Honey Bii

Orgasm Part 2

My journey to my orgasms.

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Orgasm Part 1

What makes an orgasm?

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National Coming Out Day

Today is a beautiful day!

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Dilemma

Hey there,

I'm a big fan of your channel. I love your positivity and inspiration to just be who you are but I have a huge dilemma that I hope you or your partner could help me out with. I'm a lesbian with a 6yr old kid and I haven't had an issue with anyone that I dated that was insecure with me being cordial with my sons father who happens to be my ex husband we been divorce since 2008 but I separated from him in 2006. Anyways my girlfriend of 1year and some months hates the fact that I answer the phone when he calls for my son she rather me just give my son the phone without saying hello or anything. We have broken up many of time over this same issue and this last break up was the worst.she completely move out of our apartment and a lot of our family was involved it was a big mess. She said that she is willing to work on our relationship only if I agree to not answer the phone when he calls just to give the phone to my son. I told her that I am even willing to get my son a phone of his own. I have before and I don't mind doing it again at this point I'm confused cause everyone I talk to that have kids or been in the same situation tells me that it's not worth fighting for just to walk away but I love her so much and don't see myself with no one else. She is truly my soul mate.I'm finally over my sons father and everything that he did to me while we was married and the aftermath but she doesn't think that I am.. I seen the video with your partner and she mention that she had a 10 year daughter. So I was wondering has she ever had to deal with someone she was with not be secure with her being cordial or answering the phone when child's father called and if so did she leave or work it out.

XOXO Honey Bii 

Surprise Visit

My mom had no clue!






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Accept Unexpected by L. Cherelle

Check her out Accept The Unexpected by L. Cherelle

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My Place Of Birth

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Vodka infusion

Yummy




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Troy Davis

Is there reasonable doubt?

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Don't Ask Don't Tell

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Sunday Funday

Enjoy Family

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Listening

This really has nothing to do with anything. This is the cable man. He won't stop talking. Sad thing is that he isn't even looking at me, just talking. Sometimes all someone needs is a listening ear.

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Mom

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Be Thankful To Wake Up

Every day is a gift.

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Advice From Elders

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1 Year Recap

What an amazing year for me!!!!!!!!!

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1 Year Anniversay To Oprah Show

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Surprise

It's the small things that count.


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Don't Do It

Hey girl lol, 

I am subscribed to you on youtube, and absolutely love what you are doing. Every video is super encouraging keep it up. Well I was watching your video titled "Is Being Gay A Sin" and it made me wonder how did you get over the fact that in the bible it says being gay is a sin? As much as I love God and go to church, in the back of my mind I feel like I am still going to hell just because I am gay.  

HIII! :) Thanks so much for seeing my vision. I try to stay positive. It's not enough of us out here. So here is the deal. I do not believe that I am going to a "hell" or be damned for the way that I am living my life. It is a part of me. It is in my heart. I love God. I have faith. I am a child of God. I however, am not an avid church goer. That's for different reasons that will take an entirely different email. I believe that if you take one part, scripture, or text then you will be confused on the message that God gives us. As I detailed in my video there are a lot of double standards in the Bible. If you take it literal then .00000000005% of people are living according to the text. That is basically no one. I have never met a perfect person. I have never met someone who has never lied or cheated. With that being said, I don't think that for the sake of making myself feel comfortable can I just state, "There is no one perfect". My message is do what feels right. If you feel as if living your lifestyle is in conflict with your love of God or interfering with you as a Christian then don't do it. Date men. 

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Love Is Love

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Positive Energy

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No Water Anywhere

Grocery stores have been ram sacked. Everyone is preparing for hurricane Irene. Blessings to everyone.




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Go Away Rain

This rain is going to mess up my brows.



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Journey's

Relationship advice

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THANK YOU

Thanks for being a part of my extended family!!!!!!

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Schools Are Progressing

This brought the biggest smile to my face

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HELP

Dear Honey Bii, 


Hey, okay so I definitely need advice .. I'm 18 just graduated high school & my girlfriend is 18 also buuut she didnt graduate lol she actually hasn't made it past the 10th grade yet -_- but besides that , we been together for 5 months now an one i still have STRONG feelings for my ex and two I just really don't wanna be with her anymore because she's crazy .. She calls me every 5 minutes if I don't answer she swears I'm cheating an then she thinks I'm suppose to text her as soon as I get her text like I don't have a life of my own so when I express this to her she says I'm being selfish and all I care about is myself. And she's always comparing me to her ex boyfriends and girlfriend like bad enough shes bi but now I have to be compared ? Ugh !  so like i don't know how to leave her .. In a nice way lol ! 

This is pretty simple. You are only 18 years old. Why would you be wasting your time on anyone who is not worthy of it? There will be plenty of people to be tied down to in a relationship with. There is no easy way to break things off. When you grow older you will find that the "truth" really does set you free. LIVE your life. Don't compromise yourself for anyone. 

XOXO Honey Bii

Cheating

Dear Honey Bii, 


Hi I'm 23 year old lesbian of course. I need some advice I been dating my girlfriend who is 27 and has a son for a year. This has been a long distance relationship. We never met but always talk on the phone 24/7 everyday. We talk about seeing each other but thing is we broke up about 3 months ago and after being away from each other for awhile we decide to be friends again but thing my girl moved on and started dating a man. Now at first it was cool, but as we started to talk again we started to bring back old feelings and one day I just told herI was so in love with her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her she told me she was in love with me to and never stop loving me and wanted to be with me, However,  she is still with her man. He lives with her and he treats her bad. That's what she tells me but she keeps him around cause he gives her money and takes care of her son which he isn't the father of but still i stayed by her side. I feel like am her secret or something. She used to call me baby or boo but now she was callis me by my name. I told her I love you but she wasn't saying it back.  Please help me tell me what to do cause I don't know and thank you in advance.


This is really simple. I cannot sugar coat this one. She does not want to be with you. It does not take over a year to meet someone in person. I understand financial stress, but where there is a will there is a way. I truly believe that you are being made a fool out of. However, it is hard to be empathetic to your situation because she has told you that she is a relationship and you have chose to be the other woman. Regardless of how she tells you how he treats her she is staying for whatever reason.  You need to stop calling her your girlfriend, because she is his girlfriend who is entertaining you. My thing is, "What makes you an exception to the rule?" Absolutely nothing. If she will cheat on him to be with you, then karma will come around. It seems that she is having her cake and eating it too. Everyone deserves someone that puts forth the same amount of effort in the relationship as they do. Stop being a secret. 


XOXO Honey Bii

I Am In The Middle

Kids are amazing. This is my family. Minus the dog. Wishful thinking.

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Sense Of Mind

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Work To Live

Make sure to enjoy life. It'll be over with before you know it. <3

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The Art Hype Photo Shoot

Black People

Where has our culture gone. What does it mean to be black to you?

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Learn To Let Go Of The Past

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27th Birthday

Just for me...

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Bartending

My 1st week as a bartender!

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Panties

Check out the different types of PANTIES we should all have.

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I Want To Focus On Me

Dear Honey Bii,

I'm 24 yrs young and I am now home on the west coast after being away for 4yrs (I'm a Navy veteran). The woman that I have had an on again off again relationship with since I was 17 is now living in another state with an ex girlfriend and I'm more than fine with that, but the problem I'm having is she wants to get back together. And I know eventually we will but right now I wanna focus on me and the things I need to do before I enter into a relationship. How do I explain that to her without making it seem like we're over forever?  

Hey. Thank you for sharing. 

To be honest, I think that it is over between the two of you. I think that women have the tendency to hold on too long. Probably because we form great friendships outside of a romantic relationship....

Getting to the point, I don't think that you could ask her to wait on you to figure yourself out without making her feel like she is on the back burner. What exactly do you need to figure out? Also, how are you ok with her living with her "ex". Seems to me that you are detached emotionally from her.
 

XOXO Honey Bii

Homosexuality In The Bible

Here are my personal opinions of Homosexuality in the Bible.

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Bikini Hair Removal

3 ways to take care of your bikini line.

1. Shaving
2. Hair Removal Cream
3. Waxing

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Studs Dating Fem Guys and Transsexuals

Hey Honey Bii,

Hi I'm one of your subscribers from youtube. I think you are a great person that has a humble soul I don't know if you can ask me this question or not but I live in ATL... Why is it that I see A LOT of Studs dating fem gay guys and transsexuals? Is this a trend? Or is a new version of sexuality? IDK I've just never seen this before. I've asked you because you have more insight than I do.

Hey there! That is a very interesting relationship dynamic. I haven't seen a lot of that to be honest. If I could take a guess at it, I think that they are enabling each other. Meaning, they are allowed to switch "roles" and still be in a heterosexual relationship. For example, if the stud wants to dominate the relationship but does not want to date women then she would turn to a gay submissive man for that satisfaction. Vice versa for the submissive gay man.
 

Honey Bii

What you say sounds like they might be enabling each other. That's make a lot of sense. Well, I've heard that they don't really switch roles I've heard that the fem gay guys are the ones to get strapped. I've asked that question because I've been seeing that a lot here in the ATL. I've looked for it on youtube and I found a lot of people been seeing that. I knew I wasn't losing my mind.

Thanks for answering my question

Switch roles meaning the dude gets strapped and the female is the dominant one. Exactly. They get the best of both worlds. 

Honey Bii

Lol WOW

I would say my relationship with my girlfriend is different as well because she's a transsexual woman, and we don't 'switch roles.' I'm the man and she's the woman. Most people don't understand our relationship. I consider myself a straight guy because I'm attracted to women and trans women and not men & masculinity. To me, if a man is attracted to masculinity he's gay rather than genitalia to me, and vice versa. I know people will still label me as gay though, but not necessarily because most people see us as a straight couple when we are together. I know it's kinda complicated. 

Thanks for sharing. You do have a unique relationship. It's great that you don't get to caught up on labels. Do whatever makes you happy. Love has no sexuality or is specific to a gender. 

XOXO Honey Bii 

Doug Anthony Hutchinson and Courtney Alexis Stodden: Legal Wedding

This 51 year old man was allowed to marry a 16 year old girl. Here are my thoughts.

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She Has A 10 Year Old Son

Should I stay or leave?

Hey there,
I am such a supporter..you rockkkk..

a few questions..
- what do you do when a girl you've been talking to and really like for about 3 months..but she has no time for you because of her son (who is about 10yrs old) and shes a single mom....She has stood me up several times and Ive forgiven her, but im getting so discouraged, because I really like her, but not sure how much more I can take..what do you do, do you wait around and see if shes ever gonna have time for me or something else? I need your help!


Thanks so much for taking out time to help viewers like me

People make time for the things that are important to them. With that being said, don't think that you can come and automatically change their routine, Imagine if everyone that she dated she let change the lifestyle that she is creating for her son. I take that you are not a mother. I am not as well.

It is really important that you take the time to get to know this woman 100%. Her child is a major part of her.

Now to the question that is being asked... Should you leave/stay? I think that you should date casually, I understand that she has to make time for her son, but she also has to cater to your needs. It is unacceptable to be continually stood up. On the other hand you let her. You are setting a standard for how you want to be treated. Seeing someone for 3 months is a short time. Either is works or it does not. This is still supposed to be the honeymoon stage for the both of you. We have to learn to let go of unhealthy relationships.


XOXO Honey Bii 

Vogue: Baltimore Pride 2011 Free Ball Competition

Inspired by Vogue magazine, voguing is characterized by model-like poses integrated with angular, linear, and rigid arm, leg, and body movements. This style of dance arose from Harlem ballrooms by African Americans and Latino Americans in the early 1960s. It was originally called "presentation" and later "performance."Over the years, the dance evolved into the more intricate and illusory form that is now called "vogue." Voguing is continually developed further as an established dance form that is practiced in the gay ballroom scene and clubs in major cities throughout the United States—mainly New York City, Atlanta, Los Angeles, Philadelphia, Washington D.C., Miami, Detroit, and Chicago.

Formal competitions occur in the form of balls held by "houses"—family like collectives of LGBT dancers and performers. Some legendary houses include the House of Garcon, the House of Icon, the House of Khan, the House of Evisu, the House of Karan, the House of Mizrahi, the House of Xtravaganza, the House of Ebony, the House of Revlon, the House of Prodigy, the House of Escada, the House of Omni, the House of Aviance, the House of Legacy, the House of Milan, the House of Princess, the House of Pend'avis, the House of LaBeija, the House of McQueen, and the House of Ninja among others. ("Legendary" in ballroom terms refers to a house that has been "serving," that is, walking or competing on the runway, for twenty years or more.) The House of Ninja was founded by Willi Ninja, who is considered the godfather of voguing. Members of a house are called "children." Sometimes children legally change their last name to show their affiliation with the house to which they belong.

-Wikipedia.com

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Stay Out Of Your Friends Business

Dear Honey Bii,

Hope you are well. I have found your question/answer videos very insightful in the past, so thought why not write you with an issue my friend is having because I am at a loss of what to do. For the past two years, one of my closest friends (who self-identifies as a lesbian/hard stud) has been in a relationship with a woman who claims she is bisexual, but in my opinion is simply straight and sexually open when it benefits her. I hate identifying for others, but as a queer woman myself I take great offense to straight women who say they are bisexual, but will never be in a relationship with another woman or treat another woman with the same respect/boundaries with which they treat men who are interested/pursuing them. Basically, what it comes down to is this straight woman tells my friend that she is in love with her and they are best friends (that occasionally sleep together), but then is still actively looking for a man and sleeps with lots of men. She refuses to admit that my friend and her are in any sort of relationship, and has even told people that my friend is a 'crazy lesbian' at times in order to make it seem that their 'relationship' is all in my friend's head. This woman acts possessive and jealous of my friend and gets made if she is not prioritized- she calls my friend numerous times throughout the day just to say she loves her, even when she is on dates with men or has just slept with them. She also has accepted money and childcare on a regular basis from my friend and gets mad when my friend is unable to support her or help her out financially. Besides that, she always writes loves notes on her facebook and other public pages to make her presence known. Needless to say all of this is preventing my friend from meeting new women who are actually interested in dating her and not just using her.

This whole mess has been going on for two years and it has made my friend depressed, insecure, and a pretty un-fun person. She will have two week periods where she is fed-up and tries to break away from this straight woman, but then the woman will call her sobbing saying she misses her friendship and can't they just be friends. They will become 'friends' again and then if my friend doesn't show her enough attention the woman will sleep with her to basically reel her back in (in my opinion). I don't know if this woman is simply ridiculously insecure or manipulative or both, but at this point I do not care. No grown person, no matter how confused or unhappy they are with their own life should be able to treat another person as she does my friend. That being said, no adult should allow another person to use them so blatantly for years.

I don't know what, if anything, I can do. Me and her other close friends have tried to get some sense into her head, but she keeps going back to this woman no matter how awful she is treated. I tried to be supportive and just listen to my friend when she was upset time and time again, then I tried being honest and letting her know that after a certain point she really could only blame herself because this straight woman has been consistent and she is allowing herself to be used, but it has been two years and it is still happening! I know its harder when you are in these sort of situations, but this woman has never, and will never, actually date my friend and my friend is very traditional in that she wants a monogamous wife one day. What, if anything, can I say or do? I wish it didn't bother me so much, because i know adults need to be able to lead their own lives, but my friend has become obsessed and depressed and is no longer the great woman she was before getting involved in this whole mess. At times I wonder if we can still be good friends, which I know is shitty, but the whole situation is beyond ridiculous and I am losing respect for my friend which makes me feel guilty.

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

XOXO Honey Bii 

Stages Of Love

Here are the different stages of love that I have went through in my committed relationships.

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Cover Letter

Here is an example of an awesome cover letter...

Attention Human Resources:

It is an exceptional feat to walk into the boss’s office on an interview and solicit yourself.  In essence, that is what happens when I step foot into any position that I am applying for.  It is clear that my present supervisor’s have faith in my work ethic.  More importantly, they believe in my ability to develop both a meaningful and successful outcome. Additionally it has more to do with my endless enthusiasm for creating meaningful relationships that add value to both my company and clientele.

For the past five years I have had the pleasure of having a full time position in the workforce directly after graduating from college. I transition very well as both an insurance agent and a mentor with my degree in psychology.  It has been a rewarding experience working in both realms of the business.  However, I am seeking a higher level of responsibility and stability that I believe your company can provide. I anticipate relocating to your company to advance my career.  I also plan to pursue advanced insurance titles in the future.

As an addition to your team, I am confident that I can hit the ground running with little formal training.  I am a fast learner and quite detail oriented.  I adjust well to new environments and meet every challenge with wit and creativity. I have experience in sales, claims, event planning, project research and development and creating and executing various types of outreach initiatives. 

I would like to learn more about your organization and identify how my qualifications would be a great fit. I look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Honey Bii

I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating

OK I'm 32 w/ kids she is 31w/ kids we all live in the same house. Were two femms more so me she is. A very soft stud so she attracts a lot of woman OK right in the middle of our relationship when things were great she would take me and the kids out often buy me gifts random then she took a seasonal job @around Christmas time it was all good until she begin to literally sleep with her phone I brought her so I took a look @the bill just to find out that she was texting this young lady who she claim to have went to school with so. I Checked it out it was a lie so every since then I have been up tight when she leaves or is on _the. Phone there has been more then one incident with this same girl emails and secret meetings @ her Best friends house which makes me not trust her best friend now plus she's not gay and she always have something negative to say when we argue and my girl doesn't seem to think that's a problem that I don't really have anyone to vent _to because all my friends are single and straight so the frustration is heavy I recently packed up and left but two days later I'm back but it feels so strange we are not into each other like we were she's always on the phone with high-school friends I never met. Or online talking is almost nonexistent I love her and really want to fix things but when I watch your videos I just feel its over does she still want me ? oh and I have only been with two other woman sexually only but after dating her I'm not wanting to be with men any more but that's all that hit on me help honey BII plz

Honey B wrote:

Give me more information about the situation. What happened? What are your prior trust issues. I look forward from hearing from you :)
XOXO Honey Bii

Hi I really enjoy ur u tube videos and want to know how to forgive my partner.
Of 2 1/2 yrs for an alledge affair I haven't yet proved she cheated but I love
her and yes this is my first live in relationship with a woman I wanna move out
and get my own place but afraid because of the prior trust issues.

XOXO Honey Bii 

22 And Confused

Letter from a Bii-Liever. 


I just turned 22 n I'm still living with my mom. I've been sheltered my entire life and I feel like its time for me to move forward in life instead of staying stuck like I am,plus my mom hates that I like women. Most of my friends are gay, but I don't hang with them because of her. I mean I could but when I come back home I still gotta hear her mouth and I hate it ugh! I'm also conflicted with the fact that I love women and I'm also a Christian. Please help me. I just don't know what to do it's so confusing and hard. I have not been in a relationship since 2008. My first love broke my heart and now it's like anybody else for dumb stupid reason, I compare them to her. Ugh. It's crazy because my mom liked my girlfriend until I told her she was my gf. Please if you can help me to figure out what I should do?

Peace and Love


I want to first state that being open with your sexuality can be quite challenging. I commend the effort that you have taken to be yourself.

When it comes to parents, it is a difficult situation to deal with. Parents for the most part want the best for their children. With that being said, it is your life to live. I would start off by living on your own. It is easier for someone to have control over your life when they are providing for you. We have all heard the saying, "If you in my house, you go by my rules."

The next step that I would take is to have an open discussion with your mom. Let her know that you are serious and need not only to be heard, but to be listened to. If you are uncomfortable with pulling her aside then write a letter. I would state to her that this is the last time that you are going to explain your sexuality to her. Either she is going to support you or not. No "ifs", "ands", or "buts". If she wants to have an open loving relatinship with you then she needs to recognize this part of your life as well.

You can view a video blog that I did on Christianity on my page. That is an entire discussion on its own. I included it for you.

In conclusion, remember that you are only 22. You have years to figure out relationship issues. Take it one day at a time. There is somebody out there for everyone. Make sure that whoever you are with is open with their sexuality, loving, and makes you feel positive when you are with them.


XOXO Honey Bii 

Dark Skin Girls

This was inspired from the color complex issues that we still have in the black community.  Here is the video link http://vimeo.com/24155797.  As Directed by Bill Duke and D. Channsin Berry: these are clips from the upcoming documentary exploring the deep-seated biases and attitudes about skin color---particularly dark skinned women, outside of and within the Black American culture.

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Drag Queen Tuck

Ever wonder how the queens tuck??? Check it out.

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Coupons

Do you want to save money? Listen to this quick video on how to properly use coupons.

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Gay Christians

Is being Gay a sin? Can you be a Christian and be Gay? Here are my thoughts.

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Communication

This is some candid advice that I have on communication in a relationship. Thanks for viewing. 


Communication is the activity of conveying meaningful information. Communication requires a sender, a message, and an intended recipient, although the receiver need not be present or aware of the sender's intent to communicate at the time of communication; thus communication can occur across vast distances in time and space. Communication requires that the communicating parties share an area of communicative commonality. The communication process is complete once the receiver has understood the sender. -Wikipedia

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Friends With Benefits

Hi Honey,

I am in my mid 20s and I got out a relationship with a women about 6months ago and I've recently began dating again. I was approached by a women that found me attractive, and I was also very attracted to her as well. As this women approaches me she states that she is "new to this" and further explains that she has never been with a women before, but has often had thoughts about being with women. I began to talk to her on a some what regular basis first just answering her questions then we grew to get to know each other on a more personal level. It has been about a month and we both noticed we formed a connection and often thought about one another. At this point my feelings have gotten involved and I have pretty much developed a crush on this women, but I am hesitant to continue talking to her afraid that she might just be curious sexually. I have heard many stories and advice from others not to pursue women that are curious because you will get hurt and it is just an experiment. So my question to you is what should I do? Should I pursue this women or should I just ignore my feelings before they get to deep and just have a friendship?

Thanks Honey Bii

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Farewell to Oprah: Smile

Oprah taught me how to smile...

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Cancer Awareness

I rock a bald head in support of Cancer Awareness. 

I Wear A Pink Ribbon By Kimberly Harris 

A silent killer with no face.

A thief within the night.

A constant battle for my life

A bitter evil fight.

The scars remind me of the day

It knocked at my souls door.

It tried to rob me of my strength

It left me on the floor.

To survive, I had to sacrifice

My Breast and even my hair

It showed no pity as it snatched

These things without a care.

I started to give up my fight

I felt I could take no more

Then God reached down and

Gently picked me up off the floor.

He wiped my face and blew my nose

Just like my mama use to do.

He said don’t cry my child

For I have things in store for you.

I did not bring you all this way

to leave you high and dry.

I love you and you are my child

So hold your head up high.

There is nothing that I cannot fix,

No pain I can’t erase.

Have faith and know that I am here

There is nothing you can’t face!

So then I threw my hands up high

And gave God all his praise!

For my soul has been uplifted

And my SPIRIT has been raised!

I’ll fight this fight with cancer

And I know I will be fine.

For God said it and I know its true,

That VICTORY is mine!!

XOXO Honey Bii